Comments on: I’m too sexy for this post http://skippingdownthestairs.wordpress.com/2006/08/19/im-too-sexy-for-this-post/ Life in all her splendor Sat, 31 Oct 2009 11:31:07 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Richard Whackman http://skippingdownthestairs.wordpress.com/2006/08/19/im-too-sexy-for-this-post/#comment-2850 Richard Whackman Mon, 05 May 2008 18:19:32 +0000 http://skippingdownthestairs.wordpress.com/2006/08/19/im-too-sexy-for-this-post/#comment-2850 Wow. I thought I was being profound with my little philosophical musings on my Let it Blurt blog. Pregnancy while being single is a far more difficult thing than anything I've addressed so far. Katrina, you win the deepness sweepstakes for now. At first I was going to respond to the comment about no longer feeling like a sexual creature, but we all know that the internet has nothing to do with sex, and neither does pregnancy. I'd like to comment on your desire to find someone who isn't boring. Frankly, it ain't gonna happen. I'm not saying that there aren't interesting people out there. What I'm saying is that when you're living with someone and sharing your lives, you pretty much learn everything there is to know about them. Yes, we all have places inside of us that we keep to ourselves but believe me, the lion's share of your privacy and "mystery" goes out the window in a relatively short time. I'm afraid that my advice on romance is pretty boring and disapointing. Specifically, success isn't a matter of finding Mr. or Ms. Wonderful but in finding Mr. or Ms. That'll Do. I find that most people disagree with me about this, probably because it's a depressing view and we all know those couples that seem perfect for each other, showing that it is possible to find a great match. Muskrat Love: I understand your point about that couple that doesn't talk much to each other over dinner. However I would add that there are times that silence is golden, and that those who talk excitedly with each other at all times are often either flirting (a behavior that ceases to exist in committed relationships) or a bit on the manic side. Feel free to respond to me with abusive language and total disagreement, if you think this sort of response is needed here. I'll understand. Wow. I thought I was being profound with my little philosophical musings on my Let it Blurt blog. Pregnancy while being single is a far more difficult thing than anything I’ve addressed so far. Katrina, you win the deepness sweepstakes for now.

At first I was going to respond to the comment about no longer feeling like a sexual creature, but we all know that the internet has nothing to do with sex, and neither does pregnancy. I’d like to comment on your desire to find someone who isn’t boring.

Frankly, it ain’t gonna happen. I’m not saying that there aren’t interesting people out there. What I’m saying is that when you’re living with someone and sharing your lives, you pretty much learn everything there is to know about them. Yes, we all have places inside of us that we keep to ourselves but believe me, the lion’s share of your privacy and “mystery” goes out the window in a relatively short time.

I’m afraid that my advice on romance is pretty boring and disapointing. Specifically, success isn’t a matter of finding Mr. or Ms. Wonderful but in finding Mr. or Ms. That’ll Do.

I find that most people disagree with me about this, probably because it’s a depressing view and we all know those couples that seem perfect for each other, showing that it is possible to find a great match.

Muskrat Love: I understand your point about that couple that doesn’t talk much to each other over dinner. However I would add that there are times that silence is golden, and that those who talk excitedly with each other at all times are often either flirting (a behavior that ceases to exist in committed relationships) or a bit on the manic side.

Feel free to respond to me with abusive language and total disagreement, if you think this sort of response is needed here. I’ll understand.

]]> By: Muskrat Love http://skippingdownthestairs.wordpress.com/2006/08/19/im-too-sexy-for-this-post/#comment-119 Muskrat Love Tue, 22 Aug 2006 18:53:00 +0000 http://skippingdownthestairs.wordpress.com/2006/08/19/im-too-sexy-for-this-post/#comment-119 I don't know quite what to say about the getting bored thing. It seems like that's likely to happen to some extent no matter who it is you love. You get to know each other really, really well, and you penetrate the mystery. I remember Jerry Seinfeld saying that when you get two ex-lovers together, it's like watching two bored magicians who already know all of each other's tricks. Maybe the answer isn't finding someone who will retain mystery. Maybe it's finding someone who never wants stop learning and changing, so there's always something new to discover with them. There's always the risk that one or both of you will grow into someone the other person doesn't want to be with, but it seems worth the risk to avoid becoming that married couple at a restaurant who stare at their plates and can't think of one thing to talk about. And if nothing else, there's a man on the way who's guaranteed to keep growing and changing for a long time... =) I don’t know quite what to say about the getting bored thing. It seems like that’s likely to happen to some extent no matter who it is you love. You get to know each other really, really well, and you penetrate the mystery. I remember Jerry Seinfeld saying that when you get two ex-lovers together, it’s like watching two bored magicians who already know all of each other’s tricks.

Maybe the answer isn’t finding someone who will retain mystery. Maybe it’s finding someone who never wants stop learning and changing, so there’s always something new to discover with them. There’s always the risk that one or both of you will grow into someone the other person doesn’t want to be with, but it seems worth the risk to avoid becoming that married couple at a restaurant who stare at their plates and can’t think of one thing to talk about.

And if nothing else, there’s a man on the way who’s guaranteed to keep growing and changing for a long time… =)

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